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Steve Madden Lace Up Espadrilles
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Elaine Turner Snakeskin Crossbody Bag
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Happy belated Mother’s Day to all of you mommy’s out there!
Mother’s Day is usually a weekend of reflection for me. Mainly because my mother passed away several years ago, so its always a difficult time to take in, accept even. For some of us, we don’t have the gift of taking our mom’s out for brunch, or snapping pictures showing how much we love and appreciate our mothers. We only have the memories that we hold on tight to daily and try to push through the day as much as we can. I always encourage anyone as often as I can to tell their mother they love them. It’s the absolute worst thing in life to lose your mom. What you don’t want is there to be any words left unsaid. I know that sometimes there is strife or wrong doing that some folks have suffered from their mother or you may have to love them from afar. But, if you can just drop those three little words in when you can, you’re giving yourself a gift!! Just in knowing that your mom knew how much you loved her, no matter what!
What has saved me from most of the pain of no longer having my mother here on earth, is having Camille. Being a mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Period! Its saved me in a lot of ways! I often doubted why God would take my mother away, why me? When Eric and I was trying for a child, it was not easy! We went through some difficulty and I questioned my faith in God. I grew up in church all my life and I knew that I had to hold on to my faith as tight as I could. Because if I let go…….!!! That little bit of mustard seed faith I had in wanting a child was just enough. I became pregnant and was blessed with Camille! It showed me that God was listening! He heard my cries and my prayers!! Going forward, I saw that He never left me alone. He was right by my side and saw the desires of my heart! You guys can clearly see that she is my greatest gift from God, I’ll never take it for granted!!
Motherhood can be amazing, exhausting, scary and thrilling all wrapped up into one. Often times I wonder, am I a good mother? Did I lose my temper too quick? Am I not patient enough? Did I scold her instead of talking to her about what she did wrong? Am I spoiling her too much? We have a lot of fears as mothers, after all we don’t want to screw up the most important job in the world!
In today’s world filled so full of beauty standards, social media and just straight out racism, I wonder how can I empower my child to stay true to herself? To understand that she is beautiful, strong, intelligent and worthy of everything else she desires? My mom always said, “the world is getting wiser and weaker.” Y’all the “weaker” part scares me! We see it daily! So how do we ensure we impart wisdom and knowledge to our children so they don’t get caught up in the foolishness? I know I am not alone in these thoughts, right?
In a few weeks, my son will make his presence on this earth. My son! Those words are a little scary to me, because I feel like I’m such a girl mom. But, this is another layer of motherhood I will have to experience that I am nervous about. Raising a strong, black man in today’s America is scary! As an African American, its scary times right now! I don’t want my son to be seen as a threat, I want him to be seen as the child of God that he is! My prayer is that God truly gives me the wisdom and knowledge to raise my kids. I want them to break barriers, be educated individuals, make sound and wise decisions. I want them to do better than mommy and daddy. After all, that is the goal for each generation to succeed the prior one right?
What are your thoughts on Motherhood in today’s society?
I know this is not my usual fashion blog post. But, these thoughts have been on my heart for a while. You know how it is, sometimes we just don’t know how to say it or express it. I would love to hear any encouraging words you have regarding motherhood today. As they say it takes a village to raise a child. That’s the kind of positive, strong community we all need to make it through this thing called motherhood!
Share your thoughts!