Relationship goals, closet goals, hair goals, shoe goals, life goals! Y’all I am about wore out from all of these “goals.” Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen a many a picture where closet, hair and shoe goals have been met! But, relationship goals?! Let’s think about it. Most times when we say or refer to relationship goals its due to a picture or a video we’ve seen on the web. The internet has a funny way of making everyone lives looks so easy breezy. Its mainly because we allow people to see what we want them to see. But, we all know that we are only seeing a snippet of someone’s life, right?
Now, I know Eric and I are serving up all kinds of fierceness in these pictures. This dress by Rent the Runway, LIFE! And yes, many will look at them and say, #relationshipgoals. And its nothing truly wrong with saying that. I know its a little bit of a compliment. But, I think its important that people have a true understanding about what relationships are and the work it actually takes before we start hash tagging and what not. Relationships aren’t always easy! I don’t always feel rainbows and butterflies when I see my husband. I am more so giving him side eye about the lightbulb that needs to be changed or how he doesn’t put my lotion back after he uses it. Yes, that really irritates the life out of me lol. But, real talk, thats just some petty stuff that he does that irks me. I am sure he has his list of things that I do that works his nerves too. Eric, if you are reading this, don’t come on here listing stuff I do that get on your nerves! Don’t try me! Lol.
I think its so important for todays generation to fully understand the importance of healthy relationships. I see so much in the news and social media that troubles me about people getting involved with the wrong person. I know I will teach Camille that she is a beautiful, intelligent and fierce woman who deserves to find a husband to treat her as such. Its important for us as adults, to really inform today’s generation about what healthy relationships really are. They should know that healthy relationships are when you are loved, treated with respect and kindness. Also, that relationships may have its ups and downs too. I mean nobody is perfect! Am I telling the truth?
Relationships come in all forms and everyones experience is different. Its nothing wrong with that! So long as its REAL!!! Some of y’all are married or with your boo thang and you’ve never had an argument, you’re so deep in love and can’t spend a second away from your bae. He’s the best thing since sliced bread and your relationship is so easy. Ok, then great! But, over this way, thats not how OUR relationship roll. Eric and I like our alone time to chill and do our own thing or watch our own tv shows, we roll our eyes at each other more so than giving each other the dreamy eyes. I get on his nerve and he gets on my last. We fuss and get into arguments! There has been a few times where Eric could catch these hands lol. We’ve gone days without speaking to each other (that was wayyyy back when, the Lord has brought us a mighty long way lol). But, we also love each other very much and he supports me as if I can do anything in the world. So now that you know this, does it mean we are not considered “relationship goals??” Of course not!
I like to roll with this hashtag I found on Instagram that I find more fitting and just makes more darn sense, #relationshipsbelike. Yes, thats more like it! I think that helps to broaden and round out what relationships truly are. Relationships be like love, respect, honor, fussing, fighting, making up, laughter, joy, pain and support etc. Yep, this is one that I can get down with! Now trust, I am not spilling our business to the world in this blog post. But, I like to keep it real honey and if I can’t do that on my own blog, then where can I do that at?!
Let me know your thoughts on the matter! I would love to have some dialogue and hear your opinions!
Photography: Laurel Creative in NYC
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